There is freedom waiting for you,
On the breezes of the sky,
And you ask “What if I fall?”
Oh but my darling,
What if you fly?
This poem popped up in my Facebook feed recently and it resonated with me immediately. I loved it. I re-read it a thousand times. What a wonderfully expressive way to encourage bravery and action.
The timing was apt; I had literally just launched my own natural skincare range, Willowberry, having spent the last 3 years developing it. For a long time I worked on it in secret – subconsciously this was probably so I could back out without losing face if I wanted to! As time went on, I made myself accountable by telling people about it. But it wasn’t until launch day was looming that I suddenly thought, “what the hell am I doing?! What if it all goes wrong?! Where’s the wine….?!”.
But here’s the thing with fear – it’s a much-needed emotion when we are walking down a dark road and someone across the road is acting a bit suspect; we need fear to tell us to get the hell out of there, pronto. All hail fear for protecting us. Thanks for having our back, fear!
But fear isn’t always our friend, oh no – fear also has an irritating habit of sneaking up on our hopes and dreams and trampling all over them. Gleefully. So many of us have dreams in life but dwell too much on the ‘what-ifs’ to follow them through. Especially us mums, who have families to look after and perhaps feel like our own dreams have to be put on hold. But following our dreams doesn’t mean that we can’t still be good mums; surely it makes us good role models? Surely our happiness will benefit our kids? We can nurture ourselves as well as our children; the two don’t have to be mutually exclusive.
Every person’s hopes and dreams are different. For some it may be career-focused, for others it could mean travel (although please don’t ditch the kids!), or perhaps it might be about learning. It may be a big and bold dream, or it may be a lovely little dream. Making the change, whatever that change may be. Fortune favours the brave, so put yourself at the front of the queue.
We only have one life, so let’s make it a darned good one. I’m 35 and sadly I know of too many people my age who are no longer with us. It made me realise that if I didn’t give Willowberry a shot, it would be my one big regret. So I got on with it and did something about it.
And you know what? No matter what the future may hold for me and Willowberry, if I was on my death bed I would feel so proud and content to have done it. Feel the fear and do it anyway! I would rather take that leap and know what’s on the other side, than always wonder what could have been. And oh my darling, what if you fly? There’s only one way to find out…
A Guest Blog from Jenni Retourné
Jenni Retourné lives in Cheltenham with her husband and their daughter Eva, who is soon to be 3. Jenni is the founder of Willowberry, a natural skincare range dedicated to the skin’s wellbeing. Jenni is most likely to be found knee-deep in skincare, muddy parks or good food. You can find Willowberry on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter.
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